Best Lover - Not A Moment Too Soon
Embracing Teenage Sexualiy
What Parenting Experts are Saying About "Best Lover"
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Press Release

February 1, 2004
For Immediate Release
Contact: Howard B. Schiffer

Santa Barbara, Calif.— From driver’s education to school tutors to special coaching, conscientious parents ensure that their kids are informed, prepared and able to feel good about themselves, no matter what the goal. Yet kids are often left on their own when it comes to relationships and sexuality, two areas likely to be central to their happiness.

Finally, teenage boys have a contemporary book about sex and intimacy written especially for them. How To Be The Best Lover: A Guide for Teenage Boys is a sensitive and comprehensive bridge between the basics of “Sex 101” information books and adult technique manuals. Written by Howard B. Schiffer, an author, parent, lecturer and workshop leader, How To Be The Best Lover helps teenage boys navigate the unique territory between boyhood and manhood with integrity and pride.

“Many parents today are caught between the positions of ‘just say no’ and ‘they already know,’” Schiffer says. “And teenagers may indeed know about the physiology and mechanics of sex. But what about the importance of becoming vulnerable, or knowing if your girlfriend is really ready to be sexual with you? Instead of taking the opportunity to open a new level of communication with their teen, many parents say nothing. I wrote this book to help get vitally important issues in the open in a healthy way.”

How To Be The Best Lover doesn’t shy away from big questions, Schiffer adds, from talking about oral sex to the importance of laughter in bed. The book covers the bigger issues of intimacy as well, such as what to do when things go wrong in a relationship, emotional rules for connecting with someone at this level, essential qualities to look for in a lover and reasons why it’s worth it to be the best lover.

Schiffer was inspired to write How To Be The Best Lover by the rewarding experience of talking with his own son about sex and relationships. A former midwife who studied with founders of the home birth movement, Schiffer is also a founding member of the Santa Barbara Men’s Community and the founder and executive director of Vitamin Angel Alliance, a nonprofit humanitarian organization. Lover is his third book.

Parenting experts have applauded the publication of How To Be The Best Lover. “Who before has ever dared to tell teenage boys the deep truth about lovemaking?” asks Peggy O’Mara, editor-in-chief of Mothering magazine. “[Howard Schiffer’s] courage breaks down stereotypes and provides real information that inspires individuals, strengthens relationships and protects families.” Dawna Markova, Ph.D., author of How Your Child is Smart and Random Acts of Kindness, says, “This book is not only a gift to every teenage boy on the planet, it is also a gift to their parents and every person they will love.”

How To Be The Best Lover: A Guide For Teenage Boys is published by Heartful Loving Press, PO Box 30041, Santa Barbara, CA 93130, www.heartfullovingpress.com, at a hardcover price of $19.95.

Title: How To Be The Best Lover: A Guide For Teenage Boys
Author: Howard B. Schiffer
Publication: April 2004
Publisher: Heartful Loving Press, PO Box 30041, Santa Barbara, CA 93130, www.heartfullovingpress.com
Binding: Hardcover, 176 pp., 6 inches x 8.5 inches, illustrated
ISBN: 0-9723639-0-4